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    Aging parents and guns

    Talking through this as work the other day.
    Scenario.
    Father is aging and has dementia. Never really messed with his guns before. Probably like many of us, just put them up and take them out to use them. However, this gentleman takes his pistols out and “dinks” with them. The family is worried that he is aging and frail, not to mention the “frontal lobe dementia”and that he will hurt himself or others.

    How do you handle this type of situation without taking to poor guys dignity?

    #2
    We secretly had firing pins removed by the gunsmith while she was at the beauty shop. We were scared Mamaw was gonna shoot the mailman.

    We kept all the parts and restored the guns to working condition later.
    Last edited by TransPecos; 11-25-2021, 08:05 AM.

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      #3
      Originally posted by TransPecos View Post
      We secretly removed firing pins. We were scared Mamaw was gonna shoot the mailman.
      I thought about this as well. They said he uses snap caps to function the gun. Does it still “click” with the firing pin removed.

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        #4
        Yes it will still click, as far as trying to fire. I don’t think snap caps actually produce a noise, but not sure of that. Doubt he was know the difference. But I would do something ASAP, before he sticks a round in one and it’s to late.
        Last edited by critter69; 11-25-2021, 08:19 AM.

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          #5
          My grandad ended up pulling a Saturday night special on a guy that owned the retirement community he & my Grandma lived at. Grandad had decided this fella was attempting to woo my grandmother, although 35 years her junior. All of it was delusional & we just flat out took his guns from him as he could no longer be trusted to make good decisions with them. He was going to hurt someone or get himself hurt. He ended up in Harris county jail over the deal for a day or 2.
          My opinion is to take them before he gets to the point where he may hurt him self of someone else, hard as that may be.
          Last edited by Highbridge hand; 11-25-2021, 08:49 AM. Reason: .

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            #6
            Take the guns away. He may pull a gun on someone and get himself shot, firing pins or no.

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              #7
              That’s a tough one and I’m not sure how to handle it since I’ve never been in that situation. I think that I might try to reason with him but I’m afraid that ego, pride and fear would would get in the way of a rational conversation. But then again, I suppose it all depends on who you’re dealing with.
              I’m getting older and my be on the receiving end of that conversation some day and knowing how I am now, it wouldn’t go well for the very reasons I mentioned.
              I will be following this one for ideas.

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                #8
                My dad has Alzheimers. All guns were distributed to me and my brother in the beginning.

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                  #9
                  Originally posted by Tex_Cattleman View Post
                  My dad has Alzheimers. All guns were distributed to me and my brother in the beginning.

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                  Same here - as my dad’s dementia progressed we got worried so I went over when he wasn’t there and loaded up his guns. He asked where they were a couple times but eventually forgot about it

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                    #10
                    Originally posted by Brinkley View Post
                    Talking through this as work the other day.
                    Scenario.
                    Father is aging and has dementia. Never really messed with his guns before. Probably like many of us, just put them up and take them out to use them. However, this gentleman takes his pistols out and “dinks” with them. The family is worried that he is aging and frail, not to mention the “frontal lobe dementia”and that he will hurt himself or others.

                    How do you handle this type of situation without taking to poor guys dignity?

                    Michael, Frontal lobe dementia is a very serious form of dementia. I pray you and you family as I know these are tough time. Having a father who suffered from mental issues, you need to remove the guns. I have a Uncle who has this form of dementia and I have seen first hand how fast this disease can progress. Prays for you father and family.

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                      #11
                      First off sorry to hear your father has frontal lobe dementia. Lost my mom last year after a 7 year battle with it. One thing with frontal lobe dementia is a lot of them tend to get violent at some point. My mom went from the sweetest woman in the world who never cussed or being remotely violent to cussing worse than a sailor and hitting my dad and me. We got that correct with medication. Of course it wasn't her it was that **** disease. From my experience I would advise to take the guns to prevent any possible tragedies. This disease will make them do things they would have never done before. With dementia depending on what stage they are in you often can't reason with them as they are determined they can do anything as they have done before. Also make sure to take his car keys. Sorry he is and your family is having to go through this horrible disease.

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                        #12
                        Had same problem with my father a few years back. Asked him to turn them over so my brother, I, and son could use them and enjoy them. He refused so I put trigger locks on them and hid the keys. He got mad and went next door to neighbor to grind them off. I said screw it and said, I'm taking them get made if you want to. End of Story.

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                          #13
                          Been there and done that, with my dad. Get the guns out of his possession. Way better that he gets mad (he'll get over it), than the possible alternatives.

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                            #14
                            Grandfather has dementia. I took them immediately when he diagnosed.

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                              #15
                              Another important safety measure was to have a mechanic install a kill switch on the car. It never sunk in that he could no longer drive and mom was terrified that he would find the keys and take off.

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