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Old 02-14-2021, 08:39 AM   #1
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Any one on here have had a bad time dealing with anxiety ? The owner of the company I worked for killed him self, so we lost our jobs. Then my identity gets jacked, then find out our elderly neighbor ( like a dad to us) is going through kidney and liver failure, and my whole world came crashing down. Now I am terribly afraid of going to a job interview or anything, my mind just keeps racing and racing. Doc did prescribe some pills, but dang it seems to be worse . Some say it will get worse before the pills start helping, some say the pills donít work ( God I hope they are wrong ! ) I pray and ask God for assistance, but wondering if others have dealt with this, and maybe how they got over it ?
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Old 02-14-2021, 08:54 AM   #2
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Old 02-14-2021, 09:02 AM   #3
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Good luck MrCritter. Prayer sent.

Exercise creates and releases alot of hormones that do the body, mind and soul good.
And its free.

Keep on keepin on.
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Old 02-14-2021, 09:05 AM   #4
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Good luck MrCritter. Prayer sent.

Exercise creates and releases alot of hormones that do the body, mind and soul good.
And its free.

Keep on keepin on.
Money right here ^^^.
Gotta force yourself most times, because there will never be any motivation imo.
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Old 02-14-2021, 09:10 AM   #5
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Prayer sent^ for your peace of mind.
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Old 02-14-2021, 09:13 AM   #6
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We all experience it at some level, so don’t feel alone. Praying and exercise can help you. God, we come together in prayer for this man. We ask for your complete and supernatural healing, protection, and provision for him. That he can lay his anxiety at your feet, and find peace through you. Praying all this through your son, our mighty Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. Amen
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Old 02-14-2021, 09:14 AM   #7
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Max Lucado has a great study about it.

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Old 02-14-2021, 09:15 AM   #8
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We all experience it at some level, so donít feel alone. Praying and exercise can help you. God, we come together in prayer for this man. We ask for your complete and supernatural healing, protection, and provision for him. That he can lay his anxiety at your feet, and find peace through you. Praying all this through your son, our mighty Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. Amen
Amen. Prayers sent.
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Old 02-14-2021, 09:16 AM   #9
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Old 02-14-2021, 09:21 AM   #11
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Extra strength Tylenol and exercise is the best kept secret
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Old 02-14-2021, 09:56 AM   #12
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Like a lot of other guys said, get out and exercise, or just get out and do something. Just getting outside and moving around helps

Focus on one think at a time one day at a time

The worse thing you can do is nothing. Youíve got to dust yourself off and get it done, one piece at a time and one day at a time.

Donít depend on medicine to fix it. It may help and it may not. There are people in the world who love you and will help you. But you have to communicate with them and help them help you.

I have anxiety all the time. I just force myself to push thru it. People in life have pushed for me and every time I get overwhelmed I remember it and it inspires me to push for myself.
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Old 02-14-2021, 10:01 AM   #13
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1st Peter 5:6-8 ..man I fight this in prayer daily...you can beat this bad season
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Old 02-14-2021, 10:02 AM   #14
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Continue to seek God, the ultimate healer.

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Old 02-14-2021, 10:06 AM   #15
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Exercise, and get alone with God..
Be still and and ask Him to help clear your mind, to minister to your heart and mind.
Do Not focus on all that’s gone wrong.
Remember the good things and all the circumstances your facing..
A friend once told me.
You got to go thru to get thru.. because there isn’t drive thru for a break thru!!
Hang on man.. there is Victory on the other side!!
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Old 02-14-2021, 10:28 AM   #16
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Amen. Bro. Bill said it well. Prayers up.
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Old 02-14-2021, 10:32 AM   #17
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PM sent , been down this road before.
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Old 02-14-2021, 10:50 AM   #18
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Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. No meds and most folks only need 2 or 3 sessions to get relief. It works!

Edit: Prayer, bible reading and exercise increase the results tremendously.
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Old 02-14-2021, 10:56 AM   #19
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Been through it, throw the pills in the trash, they made my life a living hell for six months. Exercise, therapy, family, god, and Time. It will get better.
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Old 02-14-2021, 11:00 AM   #20
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i went through some things when i was younger and the meds did nothing but make me lifeless. as many others have said, exercise does wonders. i also read the bible and listen to positive thinking types of podcasts about dealing with adversity. Marcus Luttrell has one called team never quit thats pretty good and Ray Lewis used to as well
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Old 02-14-2021, 11:01 AM   #21
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Old 02-14-2021, 11:01 AM   #22
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The Headspace app is good for guided meditation, and it helped me quite a bit. Just to observe the anxiety as a thing separate from me and not as something that is consuming me. Doesn’t always mean it will be a snap of the fingers type solution but it helps with recognizing it instead of feeling helpless
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Old 02-14-2021, 11:01 AM   #23
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Old 02-14-2021, 11:07 AM   #24
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Prayers for you Brother. Dig in and get through it, this to shall pass.
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Old 02-14-2021, 11:37 AM   #25
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During the early part of the day you can take Pseudoephedrine with the Tylenol but it will disturb sleeping patterns.

I recommend the Tylenol only if it keeps emotions in check which it does for most folk.

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Old 02-14-2021, 11:54 AM   #27
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Been through it, throw the pills in the trash, they made my life a living hell for six months. Exercise, therapy, family, god, and Time. It will get better.
Telling people to throw their pills in the trash is the most ignorant thing i have read on here , worst advise ever. You have know idea what medication was prescribed for what mental issue.
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Old 02-14-2021, 11:56 AM   #28
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x2 on the headspace app, it really helps. And depending on what the doc prescribed, it can take between 2-6 weeks to kick in, but it is proven to work. And as someone else mentioned, if you can get into cognitive behavioral therapy, that will really be most beneficial.
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Old 02-14-2021, 11:57 AM   #29
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Exercise and Stoicism
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Old 02-14-2021, 11:59 AM   #30
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The diet part of handling anxiety is important too. Eat better. Eat health. Eliminate or severally cut back on alcohol intake.
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Old 02-14-2021, 12:01 PM   #31
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Tylenol kicks in within forty minutes, dulls emotions, and is cheap and fairly safe.


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Old 02-14-2021, 12:07 PM   #32
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Been there. Took medication in college but it didn't help. Had terrible sleeping disorder on top of it too. What does help is coming to the realization that anxiety is triggered by thinking about the future, and the things that might go wrong. Learn to focus on the present and work on the things you can control now. It will make you feel better about the things you can't control later.
Unfriend / unfollow anyone in your life or on social media that triggers negative thoughts. You don't need that in your life.
Make more time for hobbies that interest you and that you are good at.
Exercise helps because it can make you feel better all over. Although when I'm really upset about something it's hard to get motivated to work out. I have to be in the right mindset to push myself through a good work out. And it's hard to get there when the mind is cloudy with negative thoughts. When I'm having trouble with motivation I usually just do cardio or yoga because I don't have to push myself as hard but still get the benefit of exercise. Or I make a deal with myself - work out for 20 minutes and if I still feel crappy after 20 minutes, I allow myself to stop for the day. If I feel good at 20 minutes, I push myself through another 10 or 15. 95% of the time I don't stop at 20.
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Old 02-14-2021, 12:11 PM   #33
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Take the Tylenol, exercise, and think the anxiety trigger all the way through until the end.

If you are afraid of financial collapse, think about yourself in the worst case scenario

Afraid of death, think about the moment of death

And so forth
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Old 02-14-2021, 12:11 PM   #34
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Hang in there buddy. I’ve been there also. The meds def help. They take a little time but they will work. Prayers for you! Keep the Faith in the LORD!!!
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Old 02-14-2021, 12:15 PM   #35
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Oh man I hate to hear what your going through.I’ve been very ill the last few years wife divorced me a year ago my work abilities were affected by sickness so money was cut in half then COVID and reduced business,the Rocky man spotted fever reeked havoc on my brain and emotions. Prayer,exercise bible reading and trying to still help others has been getting me through.I’m lucky to have some good friends who gave me awesome support and backed me 100 and ten percent.Pour your heart out to your confidants don’t keep it bottled up allow yourself to be helped there will be plenty of opportunity to return the favor as time goes on.I got really bad of mentally suicidal cravings were daily I had extreme chemical imbalances and absences it took a bit docs finally figured out how to help.Just hang in there at all cost it will be ok! There are a lot of great suggestions on here remember your Heavenly Father Jehovah he will sustain you and provide what you need,cling to him and meditate and pray in the power of Jesus name.I appreciate 1Peter 4:6-11 and Luke 12:6,7 when I’m stressed or distressed.Work in harmony with your prayers stay busy.Hang in there brother you are in our prayers.
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Old 02-14-2021, 12:16 PM   #36
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Like a lot of other guys said, get out and exercise, or just get out and do something. Just getting outside and moving around helps

Focus on one think at a time one day at a time

The worse thing you can do is nothing. Youíve got to dust yourself off and get it done, one piece at a time and one day at a time.

Donít depend on medicine to fix it. It may help and it may not. There are people in the world who love you and will help you. But you have to communicate with them and help them help you.

I have anxiety all the time. I just force myself to push thru it. People in life have pushed for me and every time I get overwhelmed I remember it and it inspires me to push for myself.

This seems like the best advise one could give...find relaxation in the things u love to do.....go wet a line or sit in the woods....I know thats what I do want to do every chance I get....unfortunately executing it is the part that gives me anxiety when mother nature, work, or fatherhood doesn't allow it to all fall into place....
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Old 02-14-2021, 12:25 PM   #37
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Sorry man. Hope it works out!
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I'm praying for you sir. I have really bad anxiety that is helped by prescription medication, but even so I have my days where it just seems overwhelming. Even with the medications, I still get the occasional panic attack. When I'm home from working offshore, I talk to a professional therapist, still see my doctor about the anxiety medication and rely on my faith in God to see me through it all. I will include you in my prayers tonight and remember all will be taken care of in God's Time.
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Old 02-14-2021, 12:57 PM   #39
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Telling people to throw their pills in the trash is the most ignorant thing i have read on here , worst advise ever. You have know idea what medication was prescribed for what mental issue.
Seems like he was pretty clear, anxiety. In a lot of medical professionals opinion the Most over medicated conditions in the world. I think your post is a little harsh. Speak with your doctor before throwing them in the trash. Have a great day buddy, it will get better!
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Hey man. Get with a Dr. that will do a genetics test BEFORE they prescribe anything else!

it can show which lineage of medicine your body can take (and those you are down right allergic to). We dont want to exacerbate your struggles.

The above suggestions are good. It will take a mixture of all the above, but those medications are harsh and it's easy to make it worse.

Good luck, remember, that anxiety cant kill you. No matter what your heart and mind are saying.
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Old 02-14-2021, 02:25 PM   #41
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I have been in your shoes. I lost a good paying job due to depression and anxiety and was unemployed for 11 months. All with a wife of only 3 years and a newborn child. Looking back, we only made it thru by the grace of God. Keep praying. I will pray for you as well but when you think you have prayed enough pray some more.
Find a good psychiatrist/psychologist or someone to talk to. If you don’t like them find another that you do like. I questioned whether my medication was working as well and then found a psychiatrist that did the genetic testing like others have mentioned and he lined me out. Go see them and tell them everything as often as you think you need whether that be once a week or once a month.
Diet is important as well like others on here have said. First and foremost if you are drinking you have to limit that or cut it out completely. Caffeine was the biggy for me that often goes unnoticed. When I cut out the ton of caffeine I was drinking daily I noticed a change.
Above all know that this is only temporary—you WILL get better. There are so many people out there and on this website willing to help. If you’d like to PM me I will give you my number if you ever need to talk.
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Old 02-14-2021, 04:18 PM   #42
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I had anxiety and didnt even know it lol. I've since gotten better at recognizing it. I'd just hard nose through it before, until it felt like a heart attack and laughed at the docs when they said no you have anxiety and stress. Sometimes we have to hard nose it, but should try to help ourselves. Exercise, not just running, lifting too. Lifting helps our body actually be more capable of handling the cortisol/insulin fluctuations, cardio kind of helps our capacity and regulation of it. I wasnt lifting, but was running 5-10 miles regularly, with lots of coffee. I didnt think how I was spiking cortisol. Then i worked on strerching/doing yoga. That's been a total game changer for me for stress. Then what everyone above had to say about getting with God.
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Old 02-14-2021, 04:28 PM   #43
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The meds only do half the job. Without retraining your brain through some form of guided therapy, when you quit taking the meds, nothing has changed.


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Old 02-14-2021, 05:16 PM   #44
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I know the feeling all too well. I’m still trying to figure it all out myself.
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Old 02-14-2021, 05:47 PM   #46
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Any one on here have had a bad time dealing with anxiety ? The owner of the company I worked for killed him self, so we lost our jobs. Then my identity gets jacked, then find out our elderly neighbor ( like a dad to us) is going through kidney and liver failure, and my whole world came crashing down. Now I am terribly afraid of going to a job interview or anything, my mind just keeps racing and racing. Doc did prescribe some pills, but dang it seems to be worse . Some say it will get worse before the pills start helping, some say the pills donít work ( God I hope they are wrong ! ) I pray and ask God for assistance, but wondering if others have dealt with this, and maybe how they got over it ?
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We all experience it at some level, so donít feel alone. Praying and exercise can help you. God, we come together in prayer for this man. We ask for your complete and supernatural healing, protection, and provision for him. That he can lay his anxiety at your feet, and find peace through you. Praying all this through your son, our mighty Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. Amen
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Like a lot of other guys said, get out and exercise, or just get out and do something. Just getting outside and moving around helps

Focus on one think at a time one day at a time

The worse thing you can do is nothing. Youíve got to dust yourself off and get it done, one piece at a time and one day at a time.

Donít depend on medicine to fix it. It may help and it may not. There are people in the world who love you and will help you. But you have to communicate with them and help them help you.

I have anxiety all the time. I just force myself to push thru it. People in life have pushed for me and every time I get overwhelmed I remember it and it inspires me to push for myself.
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I know the feeling all too well. Iím still trying to figure it all out myself.
You are not alone. I am still figuring it out, sometimes I feel like I have overcame, other times not so much. Reading the promises of God in the bible helps, excercise helps. Prayers for you and all of us that struggle with this.

DO NOT CATASTROPHIZE. What is that? Read about it here: https://www.healthline.com/health/an...atastrophizing
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Old 02-14-2021, 05:49 PM   #47
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A number of years ago, I went through an especially traumatic event with a family member who had cancer. Every single day of the 18 months of treatment protocols--surgery, then chemotherapy, followed by more surgery, then radiation, then even more surgery and more chemotherapy--I was in a constant state of acute anxiety.

Every day brought a new crisis, every small victory was followed by a more serious set back. Every day, for a year-and-a-half, I woke up waiting for the sword to drop, knowing that it would, and simply wondering what form it would take. I won’t say that I was “a mess” because I wasn’t. I did not have the luxury of allowing my fear, my grief, and my anger to show as others needed me to be sturdy. Constantly worrying about the emotional health of others was also stressful.

I share this with you to say that I believe I’ve been where you are. I know what it’s like to live with extreme and prolonged stress and I know what it’s like to feel hopeless...utterly and abysmally hopeless. Sadly, I have no answers for you but, for what it’s worth, here are a few pearls of wisdom that helped me get through my situation:

First, a word on medications. It’s been my observation that SSRI’s, SNRI’s, benzodiazepines (classifications of drugs used for depression and anxiety) tend only to work on a condition called Generalized Anxiety Disorder (for example, people who tend to “easily fly off the handle,” those with OCD, perfectionists, etc.). I have never seen them work for situational anxiety, which is what I believe you’re dealing with (my non-professional opinion). However, if you’re already on one of these medications, DO NOT ATTEMPT TO DISCONTINUE TAKING THEM without your doctor’s guidance as they can cause acute and severe withdrawal.

Several have mentioned the benefits of exercise and I believe it can really help with depression and anxiety but, for me, I simply didn’t have the bandwidth (nor the time) to pursue it. What did help me was walking--no, strolling actually. I walked miles and miles of hospital hallways, breathing deeply and just...walking. I still do this when I’m stressed and I still find it soothing.

“Sometimes, life just sucks.” At a certain point during treatment, I was especially frustrated with our progress and tired of never getting straight answers (turns out there really weren’t any). Finally, our doctor looked at me and said, “All I really know to tell you is that sometimes life just sucks.” And, while it caused him great pain to say this to me, hearing it was oddly cathartic. Acknowledging that sometimes things just suck, accepting that there’s nothing you can do about it, and understanding that it’s no one’s fault was, for me...well, cathartic, I guess. When I began to accept the situation I was in--watching a loved one slowly die--it allowed me to handle it with a little more equanimity.

While I have never been, I believe cognitive behavioral therapy works. I have a number of “self-defensive” behaviors I rely on when faced with a crisis (i.e., strolling), and they’ve always worked for me. I won’t enumerate them here because what works for me may not work for you. However, there are people out there who can help you and I’d highly recommend giving one of them a call.

And finally, the other side of the “life sucks” coin is that, one day, this will all pass. You’ll have walked through the fire, singed, but alive. Until that time comes, my final word of advice to you is to distract yourself by staying busy. Focus on what you’re doing in that moment and worry about “the problem” later. More often than not, by the time you get around to dealing with the problem, much, if not all of it, will have resolved itself.

You’ll get through this. You will because you have no choice. You’ll come out the other side, somewhat the worse for wear, but also older, wiser, and with a clearer perspective on life; one that is solid and sound because it was honed by hardship.

Good luck to you, my friend. Life is going to "suck" for awhile, but you’re going to get through this.

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If nothing works see if your Doc will prescribe some Lorazepam. I had bad anxiety attacks for a year are two and it was a wonder drug for me.

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I hate these threads where an OP doesn’t really respond. So many suicides could be prevented by immediately taking a couple of Tylenol extra strength every four or five hours.
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I hate these threads where an OP doesnít really respond. So many suicides could be prevented by immediately taking a couple of Tylenol extra strength every four or five hours.
I think you need to chill with that crap. Not every problem can be solved with your backwoods army doctor bs.
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