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Old 03-29-2022, 04:59 PM   #1
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Some of you know that my Mother-in-law suffers from Dementia. We built her a home behind us and she now has 24hr live-in care. She's now almost completely blind, often irrational, perpetually confused and she's scared. She's aware enough to hate her life and tell us she just wants to die. If you've ever seen the suffering, you know that the watching of the progression really takes a toll on folks who love her as well.

I will say that I feel like we, my wife and I along with my BIL and SIL, have done an outstanding job with her care and she's fortunate that we can afford to take care of her like we do. I can't imagine her suffering like she is, but without family around. But there is nothing you can do to give her back independence, liveliness and health.

Long story short....Please say a prayer for us all. We're now 7 years in, but I fear we have a long row to hoe and tomorrow will always be worse than today.
So, we're gonna need some strength, patience, understanding and peace to get through it with our sanity.
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Old 03-29-2022, 05:01 PM   #2
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Old 03-29-2022, 05:04 PM   #3
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Dang that's rough. Prayers for your family.
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Old 03-29-2022, 05:06 PM   #4
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Old 03-29-2022, 05:06 PM   #5
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Old 03-29-2022, 05:11 PM   #6
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You got this, Curt. Prayers up.
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Old 03-29-2022, 05:14 PM   #7
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Thatís extremely rough. Prayers sent for you all.
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Old 03-29-2022, 05:14 PM   #8
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Dang Curt. I know that has to be tough. Prayers up for all of you.
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Old 03-29-2022, 05:14 PM   #9
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Prayers up for her and everyone involved with her care. I lost my mother to this horrible disease in 2014.
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Old 03-29-2022, 05:17 PM   #10
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Prayer sent^

Been through it twice now, no fun at all.
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Old 03-29-2022, 05:17 PM   #11
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Our prayers for you. We have a 103 year old father that thank God still knows where he is, but doesn't want to go on.
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Old 03-29-2022, 05:30 PM   #12
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Prayers up for all...I can't imagine how tough this is for y'all.
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Old 03-29-2022, 05:31 PM   #13
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Sorry to hear this Curt.....you got em..
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Old 03-29-2022, 05:33 PM   #14
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Old 03-29-2022, 05:34 PM   #15
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Old 03-29-2022, 05:42 PM   #16
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You and your family are in my prayers. I went through the same thing with my Mom years ago.
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Old 03-29-2022, 05:47 PM   #17
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Prayers for the family Curt. Especially Pam and Jenny. I can only imagine how hard it is for them to see their mother like this.

Hereís to peace, comfort and healing.


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Old 03-29-2022, 05:48 PM   #18
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Prayers sent. Sure sorry y’all are having to go through this.
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Old 03-29-2022, 05:49 PM   #19
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Prayers for you and your family. In my experience there is a stretch along that path that is particularly brutal and heartbreaking. That’s when they are still “with it” enough to be aware that they are losing their faculties. I can’t imagine how scary that is. Then there is a tipping point when they no longer understand there is a problem. Sometimes that starts a new set of problems, sometimes it brings a kind of peace. Prayers for peace for her and your family
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Old 03-29-2022, 05:51 PM   #20
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My prayers are with your family, Curt. And with your Mother-n-law.
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Old 03-29-2022, 05:53 PM   #21
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Prayers Curt...I can't imagine a better quality family coming together in time of need. You guys got this brother!!

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Old 03-29-2022, 05:55 PM   #22
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Old 03-29-2022, 06:04 PM   #23
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Old 03-29-2022, 06:07 PM   #24
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Old 03-29-2022, 06:24 PM   #25
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You’re a good man. Prayers for all of you.
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Old 03-29-2022, 06:30 PM   #26
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Old 03-29-2022, 06:34 PM   #27
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We lost my MIL in 2020 to it. G-d bless y’all for taking care of family. I’m sorry, no one should have to go through that or watch loved ones go through it.
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Old 03-29-2022, 06:35 PM   #28
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Old 03-29-2022, 06:37 PM   #29
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Prayer sent, Curt. It is tough to watch our elderly loved ones suffer from both mental and physical deterioration. I still firmly believe that there is a need for a Dr. Kervorkian.

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Old 03-29-2022, 06:40 PM   #30
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Old 03-29-2022, 06:41 PM   #31
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Old 03-29-2022, 06:44 PM   #32
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Prayers sent Curt. I, unfortunately, know what all of you are going through.
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Old 03-29-2022, 06:48 PM   #33
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went thru this with my dad , its rough.
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Old 03-29-2022, 07:11 PM   #34
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Prayers up for you all Curt.
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Old 03-29-2022, 07:20 PM   #35
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Prayers up for y’all my friend. We did it for one year and that was tough. I can only imagine.
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Old 03-29-2022, 07:34 PM   #36
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Man so sorry to hear. I can't imagine having yo watch a loved one go through it. I had a client I Built a mother in law house for and I was there looking at another project recently and her mom had gone way south. She told me if she could legally end it for her, she would. Prayers sent.

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Old 03-29-2022, 07:39 PM   #37
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Prayers up for you and the fam. And many kudos to you all for persevering through what must be an incredibly difficult time. Peace, patience and comfort for these folks please, Lord.


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Old 03-29-2022, 07:41 PM   #38
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Old 03-29-2022, 07:42 PM   #39
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Old 03-29-2022, 07:58 PM   #40
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Old 03-29-2022, 07:59 PM   #41
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Prayer Up for All the Family Curt. God Bless.
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Old 03-29-2022, 08:09 PM   #42
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Old 03-29-2022, 08:21 PM   #43
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Sending prayers your way. Stay strong. God is with you.
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Old 03-29-2022, 08:38 PM   #44
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Prayers for her and all of your family. Heartbreaking to read and to kind of understand what is going on.

We are just beginning the journey with my dad. He has been steadily getting worse for the last year. Fortunately I have an angel for a wife and we are retired so have time for them. We live across the street so are close and able to deal with the struggles. I am glad to still have them but I dread what each new day brings. It's bad for my dad but he forgets what is going on. The saddest thing is watching the effect on my mom. I've never felt more helpless or sad in my life.

My family will pray for yours! I wish I could help!
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Old 03-29-2022, 09:18 PM   #45
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Prayers sent for your family! That's a tough one to deal with!
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Old 03-29-2022, 09:20 PM   #46
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Old 03-29-2022, 09:28 PM   #47
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Old 03-29-2022, 09:30 PM   #48
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Prayer sent, Curt. It is tough to watch our elderly loved ones suffer from both mental and physical deterioration. I still firmly believe that there is a need for a Dr. Kervorkian.
Yep. We see it play out on TBH all the time..."Had to put my dog down, but at least she's not suffering anymore". Meanwhile, people suffer through the worst life has to offer with no alternative. I told my kids, prepare yourselves for the fact that if I can help it at all, I will die on my terms.

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Prayers for you and your family. In my experience there is a stretch along that path that is particularly brutal and heartbreaking. Thatís when they are still ďwith itĒ enough to be aware that they are losing their faculties. I canít imagine how scary that is. Then there is a tipping point when they no longer understand there is a problem. Sometimes that starts a new set of problems, sometimes it brings a kind of peace. Prayers for peace for her and your family
This is where we are at and it is heartbreaking. Saddest thing I've ever been witness to. Such a tough, independent, strong woman reduced to needing help to find her fork.
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Old 03-29-2022, 09:31 PM   #49
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Thank you all for the prayers. My MIL's name is Patsy Smith and I'd sure appreciate it if you'd whisper a word to God on her behalf whenever you think about it. Thank you.
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Old 03-29-2022, 09:35 PM   #50
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My uncle by marriage was the one to step up for my grandpa while he went through this same thing.

Y'all are saints to me.
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