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Old 04-13-2021, 07:30 AM   #1
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Default Best treat I have had in a while. Thanks God!

Mom is fairly far along with her Alzheimerís. She doesnít know who we are anymore and hasnít for probably a year. The last few months have been absolutely terrible. A couple days ago she told my wife she thinks Iím some stranger that sneaks in the house to kill her. Letís just say itís not fun.

Last night I heard her hollering downstairs. Oh gosh I think and head on down what insult will she throw my way? She says, ďOh hey Ryan, where is Cindy and your boy?Ē Itís like she was was never sick. We got to talk for an hour and then she said, ďIím tired and Iím going to go lay down and sleep. I love you!Ē

Who knows how she will wake up this morning? Probably not well. Make sure you tell the people you love you love them, you may not get a chance later and it sure is nice to hear once in a while.

God bless yíall and yours.
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Old 04-13-2021, 07:35 AM   #2
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Prayers for your mom and the family. Alzheimer’s is a horrible thief, and one of my biggest fears.
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Old 04-13-2021, 07:41 AM   #3
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It is amazing how they can be or what they might remember during those golden moments. Cherish them and prayers for all of you.
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Old 04-13-2021, 07:43 AM   #4
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Man I got dust in my eyes just reading that.


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Old 04-13-2021, 07:54 AM   #5
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This definitely made me smile! It reminds me that I really want to sit down with my father and "interview" him about life and video it. I'm not worried about Alzheimer's but he is beginning to slip a little bit. Prayers for more of these treats for you!
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Old 04-13-2021, 07:54 AM   #6
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No words can express how I feel about what you're going through but I'm very glad that you got that hour with your mom.
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Old 04-13-2021, 07:56 AM   #7
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Thank God you had another chance to talk with her.

Alzheimer’s is horrible! I watched my grandfather suffer with it until he passed. I would have loved another conversation with him when he was his normal self.
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Old 04-13-2021, 08:06 AM   #8
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Prayers up for you and your Family. It’s a horrible disease, my mom woke up one day in 2018 like this and life has been challenging for sure.
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Old 04-13-2021, 08:07 AM   #9
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Man I needed to hear something like that this morning! I'm so glad you got a little time back with her.

My dad is 89 and getting worse daily! Yesterday was especially hard! I woke up last night around 130 dreaming about the days events and never really got back to sleep. I just wish I could help him. Its a terrible disease!
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Old 04-13-2021, 08:10 AM   #10
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That’s a blessing for sure. Glad you had that moment. Alzheimer’s robs families of quality of life for sure. God bless.
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Old 04-13-2021, 08:11 AM   #11
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My MIL suffered with it for several years. It was really devastating on the rest of the family. You were fortunate to get that time with her.
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Old 04-13-2021, 08:14 AM   #12
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That is a terrible disease prayers up.
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Old 04-13-2021, 08:17 AM   #13
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Had the same issue with my Mom I would call her every day on my drive home from work. With her in assisted living in Okla. and me living and working in Texas we needed that call daily. After my dad pass which is so hard on them she would constantly ask when dad was coming home. One day I was sitting with her and we were talking. Much like the OP's mom her demeanor was driven by fear of being stranded somewhere and no one around to help and people were coming after her. We talked for about an hour and she looked at me and said you know everyday the nicest man calls me every afternoon. I said I know Mom that man is me and she smiled and said thank you that means so much to me. After she passed I didn't know what to do for my drives home. I miss her so much. I have to stop now I guess the onions I am cutting are getting to me.
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Old 04-13-2021, 08:26 AM   #14
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Been a problem here///been to Doc for years with Wifes mind and cognitive and short term memo.....Really gettin tuff lately .They finally gave a Diagnosis Its The Big AAAA..I kinda suspected it all along...I feel your PAIN....best of luck and PRAYERS
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Old 04-13-2021, 08:27 AM   #15
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Sadly I know what you are going through. As difficult as it is to say I am or maybe my mom was one of the fortunate ones. She died more quickly and didn't linger as many do. I can't remember my mom having those true moments of clarity but I think that may be because she went so quickly. Alzheimer's is the worst thing that can happen to anyone.

You were right to treasure that moment.

One word of advice: Always remember she is who she was. That is her. Always know the old her is the real her. This is just the disease.

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Old 04-13-2021, 08:30 AM   #16
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Man that conversation you got to have is awesome. We went to see my mom last weekend and she can't carry a conversation at this point or tell us who we are, but she kept telling us she loved us and commenting on how beautiful my wife is. Terrible and wonderful all at the same time.
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Old 04-13-2021, 08:35 AM   #17
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Prayers for your family. I lost my Mother to this disease last March and it is hard on the family but she is clear now. For the last few years I was about the only one who could get her to do things and Dad would call and say "Tell your Mother to.....". Treasure these moments when they happen.
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Old 04-13-2021, 09:49 AM   #18
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Glad you got the hour with your mom and prayers for you all dealing with that horrible disease
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Old 04-13-2021, 11:29 AM   #19
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Man that got to me
Glad you had that hour.
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Old 04-13-2021, 11:56 AM   #20
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God Bless you Ryan, glad you had that talk.
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Old 04-13-2021, 11:59 AM   #21
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Oh wow, that's tough. I watched my neighbor disappear due to that disease. His wife was a solid rock on the outside, but privately she confided in me about how tough it was.

Prayers for good days and peaceful days.
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Old 04-13-2021, 12:04 PM   #22
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That's definitely a blessing.
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Old 04-13-2021, 12:07 PM   #23
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My mom passed 2014 from dementia, it was very tough watching her slowly slip away. I too called her every evening at the same time, she would often ask when dad was coming home. He had passed in 1995. Towards the end of her life she told me she looked forward to me calling her every evening, it seemed like her head was cleared of all the troubles that she was going thru, for a day at least. She passed 2 days later. Dementia is a slow horrible disease.
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Old 04-13-2021, 12:08 PM   #24
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Default Best treat I have had in a while. Thanks God!

It is hell. My MIL suffers from it. Hell, we all suffer with it. Today is her best day, because tomorrow will be just the tiniest bit worse. Saddest thing Iíve ever witnessed.


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Old 04-13-2021, 12:10 PM   #25
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Wow what a wonderful time that must have been! My father was diagnosed at age 64 and lived another 13 years. Unfortunately he never had one of those moments of clarity that you describe. (not that I know of anyway) It was just a slow downhill slide
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Old 04-13-2021, 12:36 PM   #26
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Yes sir, I know exactly what you are dealing with, I watched my great grandmother go thru it as a child, my grandmother as a young adult & now am seeing signs of my mother starting to slip. It is truly a horrible horrible disease & I am glad you got a chance to speak during a moment of clarity.
When my grandmother was going thru it she would have good days & bad days. On the good days there were times that she almost didnt seem sick, knew us clearly and even had some memories, on the bad days it was very bad. She knew what days she was good & which ones she wasn't, she would tell us "The door is open today" or "The door is closed today" as soon as we walked in.
Very tough thing you are dealing with brother, I know I will be there again with my mother as well, if you ever need anyone to talk or an ear to just vent to feel free to PM, prayers for you
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Old 04-13-2021, 01:23 PM   #27
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Glad you had that moment of clarity. I wish it was something you could trigger or make it happen more often.
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Old 04-13-2021, 01:38 PM   #28
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God bless
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Old 04-13-2021, 05:03 PM   #29
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Prayers for everyone dealing with this, I lost my Mom to dementia in 2017.
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Old 04-13-2021, 05:08 PM   #30
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Worse illness in the world.
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Old 04-13-2021, 08:16 PM   #31
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A true gift from God

Glad you got that hour and hope you get some more time with her where her mind is clear
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Old 04-13-2021, 08:28 PM   #32
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I was lucky enough to be with my Grandmother when she had that same moment. It was a gift I will always cherish. Prayers sent for your mom, you and your family.
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Old 04-13-2021, 08:32 PM   #33
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Yes sir, that would have to rank high, very high on the life's treats list.

So glad to hear you had at least one more reunion.
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Old 04-13-2021, 08:39 PM   #34
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Gifts like that are priceless!
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Old 04-13-2021, 08:46 PM   #35
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I couldn’t imagine that pain your family has endured during that time. My great grandfather has dementia late in life and I could see the pain it caused in my grandma and mom. I was too young to really know what was going on. Prayers for you and your family!
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Old 04-13-2021, 08:47 PM   #36
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We lived with my mom having this sickness for over 10 years. Living 50 miles away we would always visit on Sunday afternoon. Although during the week we would visits to insure she was well cared for in the rest home. One day she could be the sweetest person and the next not so sweet. It's a dreadful sickness. Prayers for you as you and family go thru this process.
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Old 04-13-2021, 08:51 PM   #37
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you are a good man rubberdown. thanks for all you do
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Old 04-13-2021, 10:20 PM   #38
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It runs in my family and i have accepted that i will have it as well. Everytime i forget something, which has been occurring more often has me wondrring if its starting.
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Old 04-13-2021, 10:26 PM   #39
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I’d call that a God wink ! You are a very blessed man! Your Mother and your family will be in my continuous prayers!
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Old 04-13-2021, 10:32 PM   #40
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Blessing for sure
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Old 04-13-2021, 10:45 PM   #41
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No words.
Hope there are many more moments like that to come
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Old 04-14-2021, 12:19 AM   #42
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Old 04-14-2021, 06:39 AM   #43
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Truly was from God Ryan. I got a call from my neighbor one time while mom was living with us he said “hey Bruce, ah, your mom is standing on the front porch hollering for help. So you need to come home”.
Fortunately I was in town and came home immediately. Most of the time she did very well when I’d go to the grocery store but she’s have good days and bad. She’d call my dads name at night and it was heartbreaking. She was constantly going to the bathroom and would actually forget that she had just came out of bathroom and turn back around.
What’s amazing though is that I could show her her wedding album from sixty years earlier and she could tell me the name of every person in it. But she couldn’t repeat three words if you ask her to. Eventually she forgot who my wife was but thankfully remembered me until she died.
Wasn’t trying to hijack just wanted to share Ryan. Probably lots of other folks on here right now with tears in their eyes as well. Doc had her on Namenda and Aricept and said that was more like a ramp as far as decline is concerned, instead of declining like going down stairs.
Take lots of pictures and spend as much time with her as you can brother.
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Old 04-14-2021, 09:50 AM   #44
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Sending prayers for you and your family. As you can see in the other posts, you're not alone in this. My MIL's dementia appeared about 6 months after my FIL passed at the end of 2018. Her mind and body have been progressively deteriorating for the last two years. My wife's the hardest hit, but it takes a toll on the whole family. The time is approaching where she will no longer be able to drive and will need to live with my wife and I. Add the covid lockdown crap and it has all made her miserable. We just focus on trying to keep her spirits up and to help her find purpose and a joy for life. God bless everyone going through this.
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Old 04-14-2021, 11:33 AM   #45
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Man it sure sucks. Glad you were able to have a pleasant moment.
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This definitely made me smile! It reminds me that I really want to sit down with my father and "interview" him about life and video it. I'm not worried about Alzheimer's but he is beginning to slip a little bit. Prayers for more of these treats for you!
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Old 04-14-2021, 02:06 PM   #47
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My mom isn't as far gone as yours but I do understand what your going though. Mine also lives with me and there's not many days that go by that I don't get called names or told that she hates me. I feel for you brother.
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