Just to clarify - alcohol was not the problem. I'm been avoiding it as we tried to work through the problems so I wouldn't do/say something stupid. We were trying to work through it, didn't need me having loose lips and saying something I would regret. Now that it's really over, who cares what I say?
When i move out, strange is on the menu and i may need alcohol to help lower my standards... :-)
The prayer request is for strength when we tell the kids today and for them. Thanks.
Drink in moderation. Keep your wits about you! You are getting a divorce, and it’s not over till it’s over. I know you are saying it’s all agreed on and you are sharing a lawyer, but we have all seen that go South quickly. Just expect something to go wrong, and have a plan ahead of time. I assume she can’t get all the money from the bank accounts? Make sure of that..I got cleaned out after being told he wouldn’t and the bank said he couldn’t...but he did.
Be careful what you do and who you do it with before the papers are signed. That can all be brought up as a custody problem. Don’t give her any ammo.
Talk to your kids as much as possible. It will have an effect on them no matter how smooth it goes. Keep them out of it as much as possible. Don’t trash your ex in front of them. They won’t forget it if you do.
Good luck. I hope it goes smoothly, but even good divorces suck.
After it’s done, live your life. My divorce was awful, but completely worth it in the end.
Just to clarify - alcohol was not the problem. I'm been avoiding it as we tried to work through the problems so I wouldn't do/say something stupid. We were trying to work through it, didn't need me having loose lips and saying something I would regret. Now that it's really over, who cares what I say?
When i move out, strange is on the menu and i may need alcohol to help lower my standards... :-)
The prayer request is for strength when we tell the kids today and for them. Thanks.
Just to clarify - alcohol was not the problem. I'm been avoiding it as we tried to work through the problems so I wouldn't do/say something stupid. We were trying to work through it, didn't need me having loose lips and saying something I would regret. Now that it's really over, who cares what I say?
When i move out, strange is on the menu and i may need alcohol to help lower my standards... :-)
The prayer request is for strength when we tell the kids today and for them. Thanks.
Understand completely - It's a different world getting your kiddos half the time. It's been 10 yrs for me and I still dont feel right 50% of the time.
My key was/is staying busy and being with Family/Friends as much as possible. Idle minds are HORRIBLE in these situations. Stay active and fill up as much time as you can to keep occupied.
As has already been stated, expect things to go south before it's all said and done, then you won't be caught off guard.
Just because y'all start out on the same page, doesn't guarantee that y'all will still be there, by the time the divorce is settled.
They say divorces cost a lot.......because they're worth it.
Been there; done that, and I couldn't be happier now!
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