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I was raised this way, I have raised my kids this way, I stopped with them at about 7-8 yrs old, went to grounding etc method. Thought we had instilled good values, but over the last few yrs they have been caught lying about grades/homework etc.- We grounded them, took away stuff etc.
Tonight for example my oldest(12) wanted to "talk"to me(not mom), informs me about his grades, he is going from 5 "A"s and "B" to a failing grade in 1 class.
Now mind you, I told him NOT to lie to me, told him to tell me the truth and things would be easier for him as to why he was failing. Well, I got a story, then I brought my wife into the conversation( he did not want her to know). Turns out story was a Lie, he admitted it.
This is coming off a major grounding period for bad grades the 6 weeks in the beginning of the yr.
Told my wife tonight the belt is back on! She agrees. Maybe they need a reminder of what good butt busting is like?
I dont see the grounding thing working, as that I told him to give Mom his phone, no big deal for him to do so, he was defiant. No appreciation shown.
In my mind set they are going to have whole new set of rules laid down tomorrow.
Your thoughts, especially those more experienced than I.
I was raised this way, I have raised my kids this way, I stopped with them at about 7-8 yrs old, went to grounding etc method. Thought we had instilled good values, but over the last few yrs they have been caught lying about grades/homework etc.- We grounded them, took away stuff etc.
Tonight for example my oldest(12) wanted to "talk"to me(not mom), informs me about his grades, he is going from 5 "A"s and "B" to a failing grade in 1 class.
Now mind you, I told him NOT to lie to me, told him to tell me the truth and things would be easier for him as to why he was failing. Well, I got a story, then I brought my wife into the conversation( he did not want her to know). Turns out story was a Lie, he admitted it.
This is coming off a major grounding period for bad grades the 6 weeks in the beginning of the yr.
Told my wife tonight the belt is back on! She agrees. Maybe they need a reminder of what good butt busting is like?
I dont see the grounding thing working, as that I told him to give Mom his phone, no big deal for him to do so, he was defiant. No appreciation shown.
In my mind set they are going to have whole new set of rules laid down tomorrow.
Your thoughts, especially those more experienced than I.
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