Just looking for input as we seem to be the worst parents on the planet. We have 2 sons, an 18 and 20 year old at home. The 20 year old has never been an issue on this but he was always under the wife's thumb. He graduated HS, went to college for a year an back at home due to bad decisions, ie, not waking up for class. He is more of a hermit, he works and stays to himself, living upstairs at home and seeing him in passing or meals.
Fast forward to our recent HS graduate, 4 years of Varsity baseball, very outgoing and hanging out with teammates and friends every night. He also has played on travel teams, and is doing so now before college.
Our dilemma is this, we mandate he be home by midnight each night. As usual, his buddies can stay out until 1-2am and they do a lot of drinking at parties and get togethers at various places. Ours has only had access to alcohol on 2 occassions, both were after parties after prom the last two years. Also, due to school being out, this activity started in April, there is always something going on every night.
I am just amazed at how many parents purchase alcohol for their kids, some travel to bars together and others purchase it for them while on travel trips for baseball. I would say half his teammates are furnished a 12 pack for the Friday-Sunday trips. We have 2 players from Louisiana, both are 17, that the parents order beer for them at dinner. I just don't get it?
The wife and I are both 52 years old, are we just too old fashion? Have times changed that much? What are your thoughts on this? Thanks in Advance.
Fast forward to our recent HS graduate, 4 years of Varsity baseball, very outgoing and hanging out with teammates and friends every night. He also has played on travel teams, and is doing so now before college.
Our dilemma is this, we mandate he be home by midnight each night. As usual, his buddies can stay out until 1-2am and they do a lot of drinking at parties and get togethers at various places. Ours has only had access to alcohol on 2 occassions, both were after parties after prom the last two years. Also, due to school being out, this activity started in April, there is always something going on every night.
I am just amazed at how many parents purchase alcohol for their kids, some travel to bars together and others purchase it for them while on travel trips for baseball. I would say half his teammates are furnished a 12 pack for the Friday-Sunday trips. We have 2 players from Louisiana, both are 17, that the parents order beer for them at dinner. I just don't get it?
The wife and I are both 52 years old, are we just too old fashion? Have times changed that much? What are your thoughts on this? Thanks in Advance.
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