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Old 03-25-2019, 08:15 PM   #1
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Need some advice from the green screen. My wife has decided she wants a divorce. Weve been married almost a year and been together for 6+. Have a house with her as coborrower and her new jeep with her as a coborrower. My truck and boat is in my name only. She isnt living in the house with me so im wondering what is the process of this as she hasnt filed yet. She doesent make much money and wouldnt be able to afford anything other than her car. Im looking for advice on this situation
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Old 03-25-2019, 08:17 PM   #2
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I have no advice but I’m praying for you both!
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Old 03-25-2019, 08:20 PM   #3
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Old 03-25-2019, 08:20 PM   #4
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If no kids together, and only one year together, cut your losses and get out of there.
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Old 03-25-2019, 08:24 PM   #5
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Old 03-25-2019, 08:29 PM   #6
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Shouldn't be hard with only 1 year together. If he tow of you can agree on how o split any debt and assets it will be painless.
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Old 03-25-2019, 08:32 PM   #7
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Only advice I’ve got is to keep your busy or else your mind will become overwhelmed and it’s not healthy.

Seriously, make yourself do something every evening and every weekend for a couple of hours to keep busy. Drinking, surfing the internet, watching TV, etc. is not what I’m talking about. Workout, chop wood, play fetch with the dog, meet up with buddies, whatever it takes to not let your mind wander.

The first few months suck but it gets better.
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Old 03-25-2019, 08:32 PM   #8
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Prayers Up & get the best lawyer you can[preferably a mean female one], especially if it looks like it won't be amicable.
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Old 03-25-2019, 08:34 PM   #9
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Old 03-25-2019, 08:35 PM   #10
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Anything that you purchased during the marriage is 1/2 hers, regardless of whose name is on it. and she will want it.
Any debts or bills either of you incurred during the marriage are 1/2 yours, regardless of whose name is on it. and you will get it.
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Old 03-25-2019, 08:36 PM   #11
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Old 03-25-2019, 08:37 PM   #12
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Good luck Brother and I will be praying for you!! Great advice about staying busy doing outside stuff!!
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Old 03-25-2019, 08:38 PM   #13
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Prayers Up & get the best lawyer you can[preferably a mean female one], especially if it looks like it won't be amicable.
Man, hate to hear. My advice would be completely opposite. See if you can work everything out without racking up a bunch of legal fees.
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Old 03-25-2019, 08:42 PM   #14
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Watch out don't let her run up a bunch of credit card debt. Happened to a friend of mine and he had to pay them. Watch your bank account too it will be cleaned out too. Happened to my nephew.
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Old 03-25-2019, 08:43 PM   #15
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Thankyou for all the help. I hope this isnt as painful as some. At this point she doesent seem to want anything other than her car. Can you do this without getting lawyers involved?
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Old 03-25-2019, 08:43 PM   #16
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Talk to a Lawyer and not TBH. This is a public forum!
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Old 03-25-2019, 08:44 PM   #17
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Watch out don't let her run up a bunch of credit card debt. Happened to a friend of mine and he had to pay them. Watch your bank account too it will be cleaned out too. Happened to my nephew.

Im hoping she doesent do the credit cards. She doesent have access to my bank accounts thankfully
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Old 03-25-2019, 08:46 PM   #18
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I'm honestly so sorry. Knowing first hand the hurt and sorrow that's to come. You will find happiness again in life my friend if you ever need anything give me a shout
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Old 03-25-2019, 08:47 PM   #19
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Thankyou for all the help. I hope this isnt as painful as some. At this point she doesent seem to want anything other than her car. Can you do this without getting lawyers involved?
You can work everything out and go to one lawyer to file petition. They will not “represent” both of you, but certainly can do this and announce to the court that there is no chance of reconciliation and get it done.
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Old 03-25-2019, 08:47 PM   #20
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Thankyou for all the help. I hope this isnt as painful as some. At this point she doesent seem to want anything other than her car. Can you do this without getting lawyers involved?


Get a lawyer. Ask me how I know.


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Old 03-25-2019, 08:52 PM   #21
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Does anyone have lawyer reccomendations
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Old 03-25-2019, 08:53 PM   #22
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Anything else in her name? bank loans? Credit Cards? Bank accounts? Doctor bills? Be advised that creditors may come after you for unpaid accounts, even years from now. Always best to close all accounts and pay them off, or find a way to get your name removed from it. If she stops paying her car note, the creditor will come for you, regardless of what your divorce agreement says.
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Old 03-25-2019, 08:53 PM   #23
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If you can be civil and agree on everything then you don’t even need a lawyer, cost my ex about 400 do get our divorce
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Old 03-25-2019, 08:56 PM   #24
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Cancel all credit cards and any other charge accounts . If your are not fighting now go together to a lawyer for proper legal documents to be drawn and filed . I managed to do this with kids involved ; she didnt go " crazy " till it was too late . . .
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Old 03-25-2019, 08:57 PM   #25
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Get a lawyer, cancel the credit cards. Tell the lawyer to be fair, and insist on an even split, if the future ex gets too greedy turn the lawyer loose.
Hopefully you will get through this with your sanity intact. If you are lucky you can both move on and enjoy the rest of your lives.
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Old 03-25-2019, 08:59 PM   #26
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[QUOTE=Elite13;14066392 She doesent have access to my bank accounts thankfully[/QUOTE
Everything you have is half hers, unless you can prove it came into your possession prior to the marriage, and that includes your bank accounts!
Get a lawyer, it will be worth it.
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Old 03-25-2019, 09:05 PM   #27
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Hope for the best, but prepare for the worst. Good luck !
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Old 03-25-2019, 09:07 PM   #28
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Thankyou for all the help. I hope this isnt as painful as some. At this point she doesent seem to want anything other than her car. Can you do this without getting lawyers involved?


She can have the car but she has to pay for it. Can she get a loan at the bank? You will split all debt and assets acquired after the marriage. That all sounds well and good until you find out your wife doesn’t qualify for a loan on her own. If she can’t get a loan in her name only you are still financially liable. I would call all 3 credit bureaus tomorrow and put a freeze on your credit and cancel/freeze all credit cards.

I don’t know how much cash you have in the bank but go tomorrow and withdraw 50% of it and rat hole it.


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Old 03-25-2019, 09:22 PM   #29
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If she does not know about your other accounts I would delete that post. If lawyers get involved, they will find out so no worries leaving it. Sounds like she has moved on, better now than kids and years later. Praying for both of you and hope things work out.

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Old 03-25-2019, 09:36 PM   #30
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The best advice I can give is try to agree and go non contested with 1 lawyer, but YOU pick the lawyer and secure them (this is where I messed up). Whomever gets the non contested lawyer is who the lawyer will represent and speak with (at least in my case). More than anything stay busy! Very good advise someone earlier said about that. LIfe gets better, been on round 2 and going strong for going on 14 years this year. Simliar situation, together for 7 years, married for 1.
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Old 03-25-2019, 09:37 PM   #31
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Been there ,trust me GET A LAWYER, the sooner the better,
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Old 03-25-2019, 09:38 PM   #32
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Sorry to hear. Keep a cool head. Life has a few potholes to deal with. Make a list of things you want for yourself. I will start it for you.

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Old 03-25-2019, 09:42 PM   #33
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Hope it works out brotha.
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Old 03-25-2019, 09:42 PM   #34
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Hate to hear this
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Old 03-25-2019, 09:45 PM   #35
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Best advice I had was if there’s no children involved and you feel you have done everything you can you need to look at it as a business decision and do what’s best to protect the business
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Old 03-25-2019, 11:00 PM   #36
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I'd do what everyone is saying on cards and accounts. Lawyer up asap . Someone is in her ear already women don't leave without someone to fall back on emotionally. I'd be prepared just incase. It's a divorce no reason to trust that she won't try to screw you over. I don't care how nice shes being..
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Old 03-25-2019, 11:58 PM   #37
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Keep in mind that creditors do not care who the judge assigns a debt to. Trust me I know from experience.
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Old 03-26-2019, 12:17 AM   #38
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Old 03-26-2019, 01:09 AM   #39
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Does anyone have lawyer reccomendations
The two I know of (your location says Crosby) would be Ron Marsh or Bruce Baughman. Both are in Baytown.

Good luck. She can say all she wants is her car, but mine sure turned greedy quick.
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Old 03-26-2019, 03:44 AM   #40
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Get the divorce, refi the house in your name and make her refi the jeep in her name only.


Cut your losses.
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Old 03-26-2019, 04:43 AM   #41
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Old 03-26-2019, 06:09 AM   #42
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Im hoping she doesent do the credit cards. She doesent have access to my bank accounts thankfully
Document debt levels as of the day she moved out. If she goes on a spending spree afterwards you can argue that's not your debt. I say argue cause there's no guarantee.

Normally I'd say do what ever you can to work on it and resolve your issues but at 1 in year in with no kids it seems high risk to think she's in it for the long haul. Might be time to cut bait.

Most will say get a lawyer and the best. I agree to an extent. Try to come to an agreement regarding assets. Most are spelled out per the law and are actually pretty straightforward. If you can do this, hire one lawyer to process the divorce or do it yourself. At 1 year there will be no division of retirement and anything you owned prior to should be yours.

It's tough and a lot of suck. Stay away from the booze and lean on the Lord and good friends. When my 25 year marriage ended because my ex wife's boyfriend thought it was odd that we were still living together the Lord and good friends saw me through the worst of times.

Prayers for you, hard to see now but there are better days ahead.

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Old 03-26-2019, 06:23 AM   #43
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Old 03-26-2019, 06:26 AM   #44
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Been there. Best thing I ever did was I got a lawyer. Prayers for you both.
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Old 03-26-2019, 06:30 AM   #45
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Help her get her maden name back.


Get your name off the deal..................
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Old 03-26-2019, 06:32 AM   #46
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Whatever you can do to keep it civil - DO IT! Let her rant and rave and you just stay busy and nod your head and smile. Get through what you need to get through WITHOUT INSULTS right now. It is very easy to get into a back and forth, and go down a very negative path. That will just hurt you in the long run. If you see it starting to go down that path, WALK AWAY. Take a break and come back at a later time.

This isn't a time to get all emotional and overreact. Hit the gym / range or whatever you do to keep your mind and body busy.

Keep communication going, but do everything possible to stay positive. Your outcome will be MUCH more positive as well.
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Old 03-26-2019, 06:37 AM   #47
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Im hoping she doesent do the credit cards. She doesent have access to my bank accounts thankfully
close the CC accounts or remove her as an authorized user from any of your CC accounts.
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Old 03-26-2019, 07:18 AM   #48
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The only good advice is this....fix it. What God has put together let no man take apart. If you loved each other a year ago...enough to say I do.. then do what a man does and keep your commitment, just because she says she wants out doesn't mean you allow it. Take control of the spiritual issues going on and fix them.
We have become a society of selfishness, stop listening to bad advice from ungodly people. Please.
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Old 03-26-2019, 07:22 AM   #49
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Public forum...Never discuss your divorce on any public forum!
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Old 03-26-2019, 07:27 AM   #50
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The only good advice is this....fix it. What God has put together let no man take apart. If you loved each other a year ago...enough to say I do.. then do what a man does and keep your commitment, just because she says she wants out doesn't mean you allow it. Take control of the spiritual issues going on and fix them.
We have become a society of selfishness, stop listening to bad advice from ungodly people. Please.


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OP, less than a year and no children..... cut your losses and get on with your life
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