Glenn, we don't know each other, but we sure know each other's grief!! Brother, I hurt for you! Been there, done that... Still do from time to time... The old saying goes that "time heals all wounds..." I've posted this before but will say it again...
There is no greater gift that God can give a man than a child. There is also no greater tragedy that can happen to a man than the loss of a child. It's not natural, nor is it the way God intended for things to go that moms and dads having to bury their kids. There is evil in this world and this is one of the worst manifestations of evil I can every know. BUT!!! IT is NOT of GOD! There is NO EVIL in GOD... We know from God's own Word that evil will overtake us and He will always be there to help us through it, sometimes in a very powerful and profound way, and sometimes not so obvious... It seems for you, since this horrible tragedy has occurred you have been pouring yourself into your family to "burn" off that bad feeling or bad juju and never really let go and allowed yourself to grieve... Brother, DO NOT hold it in!! LET IT OUT!! The analogy I have is that the loss of a child is a wound to your heart, a BIG gaping wound. From the moment of discovery when it happens, you are wounded for life. Right away there is hemorrhaging and you lose strength and fall into a state of weakness. That may go on for a bit, maybe for a long while even years... BUT sooner or later you get through that and the wound "scabs" over... That's the first sign of healing... You are changed for the rest of your life here on this earth, but rest assured, if you are in Christ Jesus, you will be made whole and brand new again and so will your daughter... She already is!! She just cut in line ahead of you and your wife!! You will be reunited and renewed 100% in that Great Day. In the meanwhile, your "healing" process continues... slowly you will get to the point you can talk about the incident, about your daughter, how much you loved her and still love her and maintain control... It doesn't always work, but as time marches on, you will continue to heal... One day you will examine your heart and see just a scar. It's a big scar and your heart is forever on this earth changed, but you are healed. The scars on your body reminds you that your past is real. I'd say you could look at any scar on your body and immediately know every detail of how you got that scar... but it is a scar! Healing is complete, and you are living in the new normal... different than before, but healed none the less... Brother I'd encourage you to look to that day and begin to do things to get you there. Reaching out as you have done in this post is a good step in that direction. My advice to you is just let it all out, and don't feel bad or embarrassed about it!! IF you did not feel any sadness or loss at such a tragic event, THAT would be something to be embarrassed about not the mourning and grieving of the loss of the most precious gift God has given you... At some point, you will slowly be able to rejoice in the time that you did have your daughter. But please, please don't dwell on the past. Look forward and look "UP"! God will give you rest. Ask Him to help you. Reach out to family, friends and just like you have on here today... When you can, talk about it as it will help the grieving process... For me personally at the loss of my only son, it was over 2 years before I could talk about it without just turning into a blubbering crying mess... My scarring has healed that over now. My beautiful wife still has her moments, but we are helping each other through it... Not a day goes by that I don't miss him, but I look forward to the day I see him again! He also knew Jesus when he lost his life. I KNOW where he is right this very minute and that is what sustains me. My wife have agreed that when we get to heaven and see him face to face again, we're gonna beat his butt for cutting in line, then we're gonna just love all over him again and for eternity as we worship God beside our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ!!
Lord God in Heaven, we ask You to show our brother Glenn that You are near. Father, comfort him and show him how You can heal him and give him his joy back at the right time. Bring friends and family to him and help him to understand just how important it is to stick close by Your side Father. Comfort him, his wife and the rest of the family as they become accustomed to the "new" normal temporarily without their beloved daughter... Help them to see the wonderful reunion that awaits them when the Day comes for them to "Go Home" for eternal rest. We ask these things in the name of Jesus Your Son and our Savior, Amen!
God Bless You sir!!
There is no greater gift that God can give a man than a child. There is also no greater tragedy that can happen to a man than the loss of a child. It's not natural, nor is it the way God intended for things to go that moms and dads having to bury their kids. There is evil in this world and this is one of the worst manifestations of evil I can every know. BUT!!! IT is NOT of GOD! There is NO EVIL in GOD... We know from God's own Word that evil will overtake us and He will always be there to help us through it, sometimes in a very powerful and profound way, and sometimes not so obvious... It seems for you, since this horrible tragedy has occurred you have been pouring yourself into your family to "burn" off that bad feeling or bad juju and never really let go and allowed yourself to grieve... Brother, DO NOT hold it in!! LET IT OUT!! The analogy I have is that the loss of a child is a wound to your heart, a BIG gaping wound. From the moment of discovery when it happens, you are wounded for life. Right away there is hemorrhaging and you lose strength and fall into a state of weakness. That may go on for a bit, maybe for a long while even years... BUT sooner or later you get through that and the wound "scabs" over... That's the first sign of healing... You are changed for the rest of your life here on this earth, but rest assured, if you are in Christ Jesus, you will be made whole and brand new again and so will your daughter... She already is!! She just cut in line ahead of you and your wife!! You will be reunited and renewed 100% in that Great Day. In the meanwhile, your "healing" process continues... slowly you will get to the point you can talk about the incident, about your daughter, how much you loved her and still love her and maintain control... It doesn't always work, but as time marches on, you will continue to heal... One day you will examine your heart and see just a scar. It's a big scar and your heart is forever on this earth changed, but you are healed. The scars on your body reminds you that your past is real. I'd say you could look at any scar on your body and immediately know every detail of how you got that scar... but it is a scar! Healing is complete, and you are living in the new normal... different than before, but healed none the less... Brother I'd encourage you to look to that day and begin to do things to get you there. Reaching out as you have done in this post is a good step in that direction. My advice to you is just let it all out, and don't feel bad or embarrassed about it!! IF you did not feel any sadness or loss at such a tragic event, THAT would be something to be embarrassed about not the mourning and grieving of the loss of the most precious gift God has given you... At some point, you will slowly be able to rejoice in the time that you did have your daughter. But please, please don't dwell on the past. Look forward and look "UP"! God will give you rest. Ask Him to help you. Reach out to family, friends and just like you have on here today... When you can, talk about it as it will help the grieving process... For me personally at the loss of my only son, it was over 2 years before I could talk about it without just turning into a blubbering crying mess... My scarring has healed that over now. My beautiful wife still has her moments, but we are helping each other through it... Not a day goes by that I don't miss him, but I look forward to the day I see him again! He also knew Jesus when he lost his life. I KNOW where he is right this very minute and that is what sustains me. My wife have agreed that when we get to heaven and see him face to face again, we're gonna beat his butt for cutting in line, then we're gonna just love all over him again and for eternity as we worship God beside our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ!!
Lord God in Heaven, we ask You to show our brother Glenn that You are near. Father, comfort him and show him how You can heal him and give him his joy back at the right time. Bring friends and family to him and help him to understand just how important it is to stick close by Your side Father. Comfort him, his wife and the rest of the family as they become accustomed to the "new" normal temporarily without their beloved daughter... Help them to see the wonderful reunion that awaits them when the Day comes for them to "Go Home" for eternal rest. We ask these things in the name of Jesus Your Son and our Savior, Amen!
God Bless You sir!!
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