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Old 09-13-2017, 12:51 PM   #1
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So there is 6 children, two live on family property, paid rent for approx 15-20 years on homes/land, then homestead was gifted to them in 2000 after death of father one has 1.5 acres the other has 2 acres. There is another 6 acres/pasture that connects to said property. This property will be inherited by the remaining 4 upon death of mother. One member of family who lives at property has maintained this pasture as well as found renters to board their horses on for some income for taxes etc. for as many years. Other 4 family members have not showed much intrest or helped maintain or upkeep this pasture property. Mom has said she now wants to include this one family member in this inheritance of 6 acres for doing the maintaining etc for the last 20 years in the amount of 1 acre that joins his/her property in the event the others sell. This has put a bit of divide in the 4 family members since this person has already received 2 acres. The others will inherit remaining 5 acres without having paid any rent or maintenance.
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Old 09-13-2017, 12:54 PM   #2
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It is Mom's call period!
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Old 09-13-2017, 12:54 PM   #3
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Sounds fair to me and none of it is any of theirs right now. Mom can divide it however she wants to because it is hers right now.
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Old 09-13-2017, 12:56 PM   #4
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agree with what has been said above.
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Old 09-13-2017, 12:58 PM   #5
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Inheritance can break a family in a heartbeat. I wouldn't feel entitled to anything and if I receive anything, consider it a blessing.
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Old 09-13-2017, 12:59 PM   #6
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It is Mom's call period!
Yep, it's up to her. My Step Mother gave all of my Dad's money to the kid that mowed her yard after Dad passed away. They were very deserving. Contacted a lawyer to see what could bed done. He said nothing, it was her money.
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Old 09-13-2017, 12:59 PM   #7
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Sounds fair to me and none of it is any of theirs right now. Mom can divide it however she wants to because it is hers right now.
Yep....life's not fair
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Old 09-13-2017, 12:59 PM   #8
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Old 09-13-2017, 01:00 PM   #9
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This is how I see inherence, which I think separates me from these millennials stereotypes, "It was not mine to begin with, so if I receive nothing I will not be upset if I receive something then I will be thankful!"
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Old 09-13-2017, 01:08 PM   #10
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Like said....moms place she makes the call regardless what anyone else thinks.
Unless this land it worth a huge amount of money I dont see why anyone would care.
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Old 09-13-2017, 01:10 PM   #11
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Seems this happens a lot more that "what should" happen. Mamma's call, regardless of what has been done/said in the past.
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Old 09-13-2017, 01:13 PM   #12
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I have personally seen inheritance permanently ruin a family. The only real suggestion I have is that Mom take care of the will NOW and make sure her wishes are clear prior to death. The worst is undivided inheritance where the heirs have to divide amongst themselves.
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Old 09-13-2017, 01:15 PM   #13
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That 1 family member has an adverse possession claim! Be careful.
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Old 09-13-2017, 01:16 PM   #14
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Not to hijack a thread but I have dealt with this to an extent. Dad passed away and stepmom did what she pleased. I later found out that in that instance all belongings were mine and my brothers. Step kids didn't matter. Only bio kids. She has sold many items. Law requires an heir form to be signed by all bio children. It wasn't worth the fight in my opinion.
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Old 09-13-2017, 01:18 PM   #15
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Take what she gives and be thankful. Life is too short to be disgruntled over something so invaluable.
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Old 09-13-2017, 01:19 PM   #16
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Old 09-13-2017, 01:28 PM   #17
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I see these conflicts from time-to-time in my practice. When an estate is being divided up, all kinds of resentment and other long-simmering family dynamics boil to the surface. Parents sometimes change their minds and write a child out of their will, (unbeknownst to them) or one child mooched off the parents for decades and still gets an equal share, which irks the other heirs, etc. There are many ways it can get ugly, especially if there is a lot of money/property involved.
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Old 09-13-2017, 01:29 PM   #18
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The renters probably got a family deal through the time they lived there. Can tel you it's. It worth fighting over a 1 acre piece of land unless it is in frisco
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Old 09-13-2017, 01:29 PM   #19
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Whatever mom or the will says.
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Old 09-13-2017, 01:29 PM   #20
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That 1 family member has an adverse possession claim! Be careful.
One of the five requirements of proving an adverse possession claim is that the occupancy or possession has to be against the wishes of the true owner. If the true owner gives consent or allows occupancy, then there is no claim adverse to the wishes of the owner.

I advise everyone in every instance to make sure their wishes are documented in a will, and that they talk with everyone involved to let them know what they are doing and why they are doing it. That relieves so much tension and animosity after the person passes because everyone is on the same page and can't claim undue influence, or that somebody tricked the person into doing what they did.

Some of the ugliest cases I have been involved in are estate cases where the heirs are fighting over "stuff". It is very, very sad and leave long-lasting and deep-seeded scars on all involved.
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Old 09-13-2017, 01:31 PM   #21
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Not with this set of facts.
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Old 09-13-2017, 01:31 PM   #22
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Well..if the 4 that just want without work **** mom off.....she can give it all the the one that takes care of it
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Old 09-13-2017, 01:33 PM   #23
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I don't see any good end to this. Very unfortunate.
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Old 09-13-2017, 01:36 PM   #24
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This is how I see inherence, which I think separates me from these millennials stereotypes, "It was not mine to begin with, so if I receive nothing I will not be upset if I receive something then I will be thankful!"
diddo!
Besides i would much rather my brother and sister get everything to keep strife out of the family ( luckily my brother and sister think the same way i do)
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Old 09-13-2017, 01:39 PM   #25
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One it is your mom's call and second it is not enough land to worry over.

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Old 09-13-2017, 01:47 PM   #26
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This is why people should not talk about their inheritance to their children.
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Old 09-13-2017, 01:54 PM   #27
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Old 09-13-2017, 01:56 PM   #28
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I have been party to several inheritance situations, every time I signed away my rights and walked away, my peace and sanity is worth more than anything to me.
The rest of the family is still mad at one another over who got what, I giggle about it from time to time.
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Old 09-13-2017, 01:57 PM   #29
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Sounds like you all need to sit down with judge momma and plead your cases in front of her. Give her some time to deliberate and let her make a ruling then suck it up because it's hers to do with as she pleases. Do it ASAP before she cannot make that decision well. Tread lightly as she may change her will and give it to the yard boy!

Bottom line, if momma wants to include the other sibling (could this be you?) in the remaining 6 acres, it only reduces the others by 0.3 acres. Unless this land is worth a ton, it doesn't seem like a huge family splitting deal and is not a large price to pay for the years of management and loyalty.
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Old 09-13-2017, 02:22 PM   #30
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Sounds like momma needs to just give it to the one who has been doing all the work and be done with it.


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Old 09-13-2017, 02:52 PM   #31
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This. Amazing how one person can do all the work for 20+ years and those that never help want an equal share. Sweat equity goes a long way with me.
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Old 09-13-2017, 02:55 PM   #32
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There is going to be a fight no matter what Mom wants.
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Old 09-13-2017, 03:02 PM   #33
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What's fair isn't the question. What Mom said isn't the question. The question is whether or not there is a will and what is stated in the will. If there is no will, the siblings will have to divide it up among themselves. If there is a will, Mom should make sure that it is the way she wants it and everyone should respect her wishes.
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Sounds like you all need to sit down with judge momma and plead your cases in front of her. Give her some time to deliberate and let her make a ruling then suck it up because it's hers to do with as she pleases. Do it ASAP before she cannot make that decision well. Tread lightly as she may change her will and give it to the yard boy!

Bottom line, if momma wants to include the other sibling (could this be you?) in the remaining 6 acres, it only reduces the others by 0.3 acres. Unless this land is worth a ton, it doesn't seem like a huge family splitting deal and is not a large price to pay for the years of management and loyalty.
Actually this is a bad idea to the extent it gives one child(ren) an undue influence claim against another child(ren).
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Old 09-13-2017, 03:13 PM   #35
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Thanks for the input and easing a certain persons mind.
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All this over 6 acres of property? We are promised nothing......
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Old 09-13-2017, 03:28 PM   #38
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one shouldn't expect any special treatment for helping there parents, it should be done because you want too. That sibling chose to live there (I'm sure, cheaper than market price for the rent), so rent is irrelevant. Not to mention it is easy to maintain a piece of property when you live on it. Mom needs to go write a will and do whatever she thinks is best.
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Old 09-13-2017, 03:31 PM   #39
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My Dad left some property and money, but my brother got a power of attorney making him the executor before I arrived on scene. My Dad, bless his heart thought my brother would "do the right thing". LOL.... he didn't. I didn't expect anything and didn't get anything so I'm no worse off.
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I would just sell him my one ac. that I stand to inherit and walk away. Whats one ac. to fuss over?
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My view is it's not mine. I didn't earn it anything they give is a gift and I'd be grateful for it.
My dad earned everything he has from the bottom up starting with nothing. If he spends every penny good for him. If he has a butt load of money when he dies and gives it all to charity good for him. I'm not entitled to any of it but if anything is left to me I'd be grateful.

I have received 3 properties(30 acres at the age of 18) and later 2 lots from family members and none were expected. The 30 acres was from a family member that had kids and we're not my parents. Very grateful but I didn't deserve any of it.

My view is no one's entitled to someone else's things, let the owner make the decision and respect their wishes. Don't give your opinion unless asked and only to the one writing the will. The opinion of others that are on the receiving end aren't the ones that matter.

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Old 09-13-2017, 03:40 PM   #42
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My view is it's not mine. I didn't earn it anything they give is a gift and I'd be grateful for it.
My dad earned anything he had from the bottom up starting with nothing. If he spends every penny good for him. If he has a butt load of money when he dies and gives it all to charity good for him. I'm not entitled to any of it but if anything is left to me I'd be grateful.
We are not entitled to what others have earned.
Well said. It drives me nuts when people fight over inheritance.
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My view is it's not mine. I didn't earn it anything they give is a gift and I'd be grateful for it.
My dad earned anything he had from the bottom up starting with nothing. If he spends every penny good for him. If he has a butt load of money when he dies and gives it all to charity good for him. I'm not entitled to any of it but if anything is left to me I'd be grateful.
We are not entitled to what others have earned.
I can follow that line of thinking, to bad a lot of others do not. No amount of money is worth breaking up a family over. I guess I will have to do my part to spend mine while I am still here so my kids don't have to worry about any of that
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The cases I've seen that are a sad cautionary tale is when the heirs are approaching retirement age and don't have much money saved. Their mom is in her 80's and has a several million $ estate. You can often tell that her kids have been counting on an inheritance to save them from a lifetime of poor financial choices. Mom dies then they read the will and find out most or all of her money has been left to her church or other charity. That's a rough day for those folks but it is a risk you run when your entire retirement plan involves waiting for someone to die.
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Mom's place, mom's rules. Not enough land to tussle over anyways.
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Old 09-13-2017, 04:21 PM   #47
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I think the problem is people that "bank" on an inheritance for their retirement. I've told my folks time and time again to not leave my brother and I a dime, they've worked hard to earn their money so they need to go enjoy it. I remember before my great grandmother passed she would always say she didn't want to do or buy something because that wasn't "her money", it was my moms. My mom would try to explain the same thing to her.

You see people's true colors when money is involved, unfortunately it has torn too many families apart.
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I would just sell him my one ac. that I stand to inherit and walk away. Whats one ac. to fuss over?


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Old 09-13-2017, 04:24 PM   #49
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This!
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My kids will know early on that I plan to spend my last dime as I take my last breath. Sayonara suckers!
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