I would have to agree with the person above that said if you think he needs to be held, he probably does. Listen to your gut. I often regret not holding my youngest back a year. His case was a little different. He was put into the PACE program, (for gifted and talented kids) by his teachers early on (1st grade) but he too had no motivation to do anything. Everything was easy for him both academically and athletically. As time went on, as things became harder, he just quit trying. He would move on to the next easiest path. We had him tested for ADD (passed with flying colors). We also tried the grounding approach. Didn't work. He didn't care about anything passionately enough to make a change.
He's now in college and the same symptoms carried forward. It wasn't until he turned 21 that a light seemed to go on (well at least it's burning dimly) and he transferred to a different college and major and is doing great. He learned he needed to get away from comfortable and friends to succeed.
Long way of saying I am convinced if we would have held him, it would have only helped. Maturity is everything. Good luck with your decision.
He's now in college and the same symptoms carried forward. It wasn't until he turned 21 that a light seemed to go on (well at least it's burning dimly) and he transferred to a different college and major and is doing great. He learned he needed to get away from comfortable and friends to succeed.
Long way of saying I am convinced if we would have held him, it would have only helped. Maturity is everything. Good luck with your decision.
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