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Old 08-23-2019, 06:17 PM   #1
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My mentor announced his retirement yesterday, so Iím hoping to look for a new one. Iíve asked him to help me find a new mentor within our company, but I thought it would also be beneficial to find an external mentor.

I am looking for someone that can help me grow in multiple facets with a main focus on managing people who report to you. While that may be the most important facet Iím hoping to gain experience with, what I liked so much about my current mentor was that we could speak over anything: religion, finances, having kids, planning life, marriage, etc. Iím hoping to continue that type of relationship.

Iíd be hoping to meet up once a month, although I understand that other commitments can take up time and that the frequencies could change. I should mention I live in Hurst and work off 360 and 183, just south of DFW airport.

I truly believe there is a strong community here, and there are certainly a ton of successful people. Iím hoping to learn and grow and thought this may be a good place to reach out since there would be different ideas from outside our organization.

If youíre interested, shoot me a PM. This isn't an "about me" type deal and I understand that I should be helping you in some fashion.

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Old 08-23-2019, 06:58 PM   #2
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Man that is an awesome request. That will be a great honor for someone.
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Old 08-23-2019, 06:59 PM   #3
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I have always kept smart people around me to ask questions from time to time. Amazing how many times their spin was the opposite to mine, and they were right. Good luck......
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Old 08-23-2019, 07:20 PM   #4
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What's your profession? Are you looking for someone in the same field only?
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Old 08-23-2019, 08:35 PM   #5
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What's your profession? Are you looking for someone in the same field only?
Not necessarily. I am a supervisor with 4 direct reports. Our te consists of 35 or so folks, 24 advisors, 6 Sr advisors (including myself), our manager, director, a content specialist and an analysis. We are a part of HR shared services. I don't necessarily think I need someone with a role currently in HR.

I have a degree in Mass Comminications and am hoping to learn more about managing people. But like I said, if we could talk religion, marriage, kids, finances or anything else under the sun, that's perfect.

Happy to answer any other questions about myself someone might have.
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Old 08-23-2019, 08:42 PM   #6
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Sounds to me like a pastor
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Old 08-23-2019, 09:10 PM   #7
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Why can't you continue to talk to him after he retires?
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Old 08-23-2019, 10:37 PM   #8
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Why can't you continue to talk to him after he retires?
I can and I will, but he has mentored me for two years. Since he is retiring, I don't want to take up as much time as he currently gives me. He is retiring for a reason, to relax and enjoy life.
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Old 08-24-2019, 04:24 AM   #9
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Bump for a great thread. Everyone could benefit from a mentor. Good luck to you
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Old 08-24-2019, 05:38 AM   #10
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This is a cool request , hope you find the right person


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Old 08-24-2019, 06:01 AM   #11
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Cool request. My main mentor for the last 5 years retires next April and Iím dreading it. We have very opposite backgrounds but can discuss anything. Generally similar viewpoints but his take on things really helps.


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Old 08-24-2019, 09:35 AM   #12
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TTT.

Anyone have any experience as a Mason? I bet there's a really great network for personal and professional growth through that community.
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Old 08-24-2019, 09:44 AM   #13
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Interesting...I’m looking for mentors myself. Both for personal and professional growth. Awesome thread.
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Old 08-24-2019, 11:13 AM   #14
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Sounds to me like a pastor


Probably looking for a mentor that doesnít want to ďpass the plateĒ after each session.


I kid, I kid.


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Old 08-24-2019, 11:33 AM   #15
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A good mentor can be an invaluable asset. Iíve had a few in my career and I find myself being seeked out now by younger entrepreneurs in my community. My wife and I had a driver earlier this week that I got into a lengthy conversation with about business. He has a start up heís trying to get going. At the end of the drive, he asked if he could contact me for advice from time to time and I agreed. Iíve made enough mistakes in my life, surely someone can learn from them.


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Old 08-24-2019, 12:16 PM   #16
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I have just returned from a training seminar my company sent me to in KC. It was geared to leadership. One of the things that I thought was really interesting was a sociological evaluation. I have never had one before. Once you were evaluated it also had ways to evaluate others and clues to work with different types of people. It was called everything DISC. Some good lessons if applied.
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Old 08-24-2019, 12:56 PM   #17
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I have just returned from a training seminar my company sent me to in KC. It was geared to leadership. One of the things that I thought was really interesting was a sociological evaluation. I have never had one before. Once you were evaluated it also had ways to evaluate others and clues to work with different types of people. It was called everything DISC. Some good lessons if applied.
We have something similar called "Emergenetics"...Basically tells you where you are within society and which type of thinker you are. I am 2% conceptual (ideas); 32% analytical (dealing with numbers to prove points); 23% structural (having to organize things to accomplish them...I think some of this should go towards my conceptual. I am not a list-maker, but I do have some crazy ideas at times); and 42% social (I like getting together as a group and collaborating.)


I also scored 22 on expressiveness - basically I'm introspective. 0 is quiet and 100 is gregarious. I've always been the type that doesn't like speaking first but I'm more than happy to join in a conversation. I probably listen more than I speak.

I scored 17 on assertiveness with 0 being "peacekeeping" and 100 being "driving". I'm fairly laidback andeasy going.

For Flexibility, I scored a 72 with 0 being firm or not appreciating change and 100 being welcoming to change.

The class is supposed to teach us how to work with people who are different from yourself. I get all that, but there is certainly a difference between managing people and working with them. This is my first time managing people. I feel like I'm doing good, but I also have this side of me that feels like I'm too laid back, not giving my team enough of what they need. They're all high performers except for 1, however. Except for the 1, they all work autonomously, not much need to watch over them, etc. But am I driving them and making them grow? That's the part I'm not as confident.
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Old 08-24-2019, 01:47 PM   #18
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Maybe I need a mentor as well. I've always relied on my personal experience, my intuition, Google or YouTube.
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Old 08-25-2019, 08:23 AM   #19
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Old 08-25-2019, 08:37 AM   #20
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We have something similar called "Emergenetics"...Basically tells you where you are within society and which type of thinker you are. I am 2% conceptual (ideas); 32% analytical (dealing with numbers to prove points); 23% structural (having to organize things to accomplish them...I think some of this should go towards my conceptual. I am not a list-maker, but I do have some crazy ideas at times); and 42% social (I like getting together as a group and collaborating.)


I also scored 22 on expressiveness - basically I'm introspective. 0 is quiet and 100 is gregarious. I've always been the type that doesn't like speaking first but I'm more than happy to join in a conversation. I probably listen more than I speak.

I scored 17 on assertiveness with 0 being "peacekeeping" and 100 being "driving". I'm fairly laidback andeasy going.

For Flexibility, I scored a 72 with 0 being firm or not appreciating change and 100 being welcoming to change.

The class is supposed to teach us how to work with people who are different from yourself. I get all that, but there is certainly a difference between managing people and working with them. This is my first time managing people. I feel like I'm doing good, but I also have this side of me that feels like I'm too laid back, not giving my team enough of what they need. They're all high performers except for 1, however. Except for the 1, they all work autonomously, not much need to watch over them, etc. But am I driving them and making them grow? That's the part I'm not as confident.
This is just my opinion and take it for what it’s worth. I worked for a large corporation and went to several conferences and to several specific training sessions. IMHO several of these are flavors of the month, etc and are just others opinions. Use them as references or tools but don’t let others tell you what type of person you are.

To the op, no doubt a mentor or sponsor could be very beneficial but at times they may need to find you?
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Old 08-25-2019, 08:40 AM   #21
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I’ve read somewhere to always have a “board of directors” selection of people, friends and mentors just as this. Thanks for reminding me to continue that search as well. Good luck on finding the perfect match.
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Old 08-25-2019, 11:32 AM   #22
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Always remember that a good boss never puts off until tomorrow what he can have others do today.
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Old 08-25-2019, 02:02 PM   #23
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Always remember that a good boss never puts off until tomorrow what he can have others do today.
Folks, we've got a front runner for mentor in our presence.

Another good one: Hire the laziest person you can find because they'll figure out the easiest way to complete tasks.

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Old 08-25-2019, 02:25 PM   #24
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I'm glad I read this this morning. I need to be on the search myself for that person or those people. The mentor I had got orders to Japan and we dont get to speak nearly as much.
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Old 08-25-2019, 05:08 PM   #25
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How much are you willing to pay for this mentor?
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Is he willing to have a mentor who wears black Sox with his sandals?
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Old 08-25-2019, 05:44 PM   #27
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A good mentor can be an invaluable asset. Iíve had a few in my career and I find myself being seeked out now by younger entrepreneurs in my community. My wife and I had a driver earlier this week that I got into a lengthy conversation with about business. He has a start up heís trying to get going. At the end of the drive, he asked if he could contact me for advice from time to time and I agreed. Iíve made enough mistakes in my life, surely someone can learn from them.


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You were the first person I thought of when I opened this post. I've never met you but your posts are always direct, thoughtful and logical. Glad to hear you are helping others in your community.

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Old 08-25-2019, 05:49 PM   #28
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Old 08-25-2019, 05:56 PM   #29
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Maybe I need a mentor as well. I've always relied on my personal experience, my intuition, Google or YouTube.
This is me as well because as I age, I am finding that I'm not a big fan of "people."
I take in lots of different perspectives and sift through to form my own.

Discussing politics and/or religion makes me REALLY hate humans so I definitely don't want that in a mentor. lol
That's exactly why I gave up all social media last winter with this forum being the exception.
Just a wealth of knowledge to lurk through at my pace.
But, to each his own.
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Old 08-25-2019, 06:05 PM   #30
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How much are you willing to pay for this mentor?
If you're interested, I will buy you a set of rabbit ears so you can watch reruns of Columbo on MeTV. How's that sound?
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Old 08-25-2019, 06:15 PM   #31
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If you're interested, I will buy you a set of rabbit ears so you can watch reruns of Columbo on MeTV. How's that sound?
Never was a fan of Columbo, but I am partial to Shaft! I liked his big collars!
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Old 08-25-2019, 08:00 PM   #32
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I like the idea and request a lot. I hope you find a great one!

I've always considered my dad the best mentor I could have and my best friend. I know he'll shoot me strait and his love is unconditional without judgement. We still talk multiple times a week about work, marriage, faith, raising my own kids, leadership and personal growth, etc... I guess I've been lucky to have a mentor built-in my whole life. Great thread and good luck!
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when the student is ready...a teacher will show
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